In the back of any alcoholic 's mind they'd still would like to be a social drinker - when the line is crossed with your brain pathways you can't go back - as a wife it changes your social ways also , you may have to let some friends go - very difficult to do - in support you'll both now have to stay away from social drinking - BBQ's, Christmas , family get together's - that's stress on to it's self - no choice - all or nothing - no in between's - it'll be very hard .