WTBH.....I think that hopeful4 has made an excellent move! I am thinking that the same thing might be just the thing for you to consider, too.....
You know...the DV folks see this sort of thing all the time.....and the crazy triggering e-mails!
His e-mails are abusive and they trigger your ptsd, I believe.
I DO hope that you will consider this so urce of help and validation for yourself, also....
dandylion