Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
It's clear now and has been for some time that this is all about his control of ME and that this will not end.
I agree with you WTBH, and you're right to continue ignoring & documenting.
To flip this around & look for the good in it - he sure is showing you a lot about your triggers & inner demons, isn't he? You're stuck dealing with him insofar as the girls are concerned for years to come & you already know that he isn't going to stop this abusive kind of tirade at you any time soon - so you could turn this into a kind of "making lemonade out of lemons being thrown at you" type of situation. Every time he triggers you and you identify/work through/heal something, you get another baby-step closer to your new normal & it'll get easier & easier to hear his "quacking" for what it is.
He won't grow as a result of all of this, but YOU can.
And you are a GREAT mom, don't ever doubt that.
