xAH has been to TWO 9 month long batterers programs- court ordered... He just got the latest pending charge officially dismissed (after showing his completion of the 9 month long class for round #2)...
I swear to God that he has become MORE abusive after these battering classes than he was before if that is even possible.
It's like all the sociopaths in those classes, share tips with one another.
Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
Yup, this is what guys like this do. If you've ever read any of Lundy Bancroft's writing about what goes on in Batterer's Intervention Programs, the participants talk about stuff like this.
When I train on the topic of witness intimidation, I point out the great advantage that batterers have over ordinary criminals. They don't have to make heavy-handed threats, because they are able to make subtle ones. They know where all the vulnerabilities are--their victim's deepest fears--and they very effectively exploit them. When you SEE that that's the game plan, it helps to reduce the level of fear. It's a tactic, that's all. YOU have the power to defuse it by recognizing it for the tactic that it is.