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Old 04-11-2016, 06:19 AM
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LexieCat
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Originally Posted by redatlanta View Post
I have a feeling he remembers everything you have ever told him about your fears about anything.
Yup, this is what guys like this do. If you've ever read any of Lundy Bancroft's writing about what goes on in Batterer's Intervention Programs, the participants talk about stuff like this.

When I train on the topic of witness intimidation, I point out the great advantage that batterers have over ordinary criminals. They don't have to make heavy-handed threats, because they are able to make subtle ones. They know where all the vulnerabilities are--their victim's deepest fears--and they very effectively exploit them. When you SEE that that's the game plan, it helps to reduce the level of fear. It's a tactic, that's all. YOU have the power to defuse it by recognizing it for the tactic that it is.
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