wtbh.....you are NOT your mother...and, you will never be your mother! That is a fact that you can repeat over and over to yourself. It will set up a new circuit--a new pathway in your brain....
I hear your fear...but, remember that a fear is a feeling..but, not a fact....
You are stronger than y ou think...
And, I am so glad that you have not responded to him on this. Good move!
Don't let him see you swear (You know the drill by now...lol).....
His reward is to get a reaction out of you....good for y ou not to give it to him!
dandylion