Great piece of writing by Elizabeth Gilbert. I read her book Eat, Pray, Love.
I left my qualifier before it became anything very bad. I charted a course based on the red flags and left the Northern Hemisphere. We didn't live together, weren't married, no kids and I had the money to just get the hell out of the country. A quarter of a century later, it is still the hardest thing I've ever done. So question for those of you who stayed in the situation until it became really bad . . .
How do we support those who are in that "Not this" position? The pain I went through has eternally humbled me so I understand why people stay. Also we are not supposed to offer advice just our own experience; still on several occasions, I have posted the equivalent of "Get out now!!!"