Originally Posted by
theuncertainty So sorry for the stress, WTBH. If I didn't know AXH was the only boy in his family, I'd swear our ex's were brothers. Right down to the derogatory comments about the camp. AXH was constantly going on that DS's school was a "hippy, tree-hugging, religious nut group".
I had a chance to take DS on an all-expenses paid trip to Rarotonga the summer I filed for divorce. Literally, all DS and I had to do was pack and show up at the airport - OK, we'd've had to get passports updated, too, but that's it. It was with family, so it's not like it was with a new beau or anything, but AXH threw a fit, because he'd miss one weekend under the temporary schedule. He was so angry that I didn't even bring it up during the hearing. However, he asked that I be required to get his approval for any trips I took DS on, even if they didn't impact his visits. The judge kindly pointed out that he had just volunteered to give up legal custody.
And I completely understand the need to double check the crazy-meter.
Everything in your post brings on an urge to kick your AXH in the shins, but the stuff he's telling your daughter about her weight is downright despicable. Sending hugs and wishing you continued strength.
It's really crazy sad that something as insane as these antics of xAH's aren't all that far off from what so many others have dealt with too...
And yeah all his insults of me are shrug off able, as is his BS about claiming he won't allow camp.
But making a 10 yr old string bean, healthy kid who actually can kick her dad's a$$ in any given 5 or 10 k road race, feel like CRAP about herself bc of his nasty comments about food and weight-- well, that stuff makes me want to physically hurt him.