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Refiner Wow first thought was "well, you know him better than we do" and you seem so calm and nonchalant about it. Then when I read how calmly and nonchalantly you mentioned he had "beat the dog" made my blood boil!!!! WTH are you thinking??? You make it sound like NO BIG DEAL as I'm now sure you downplay his intentions of doing harm to YOU!
I understand. It was 20 years ago when he beat the dog and it was the one and only time he did it. Yes, I was scared but I didn't see the point in putting a ton of emotion into something that happened so very long ago. It was just an example of his instability.
My first step is to talk to my son and try to discern whether he's telling the truth or whether there's a bit of truth stretching going on. He is used to the drama and the emotional manipulations of my XAH, but he doesn't have the program or health emotionally to handle his dad like an adult. That's why I called to make his counseling appointment today.
what Firesprite said kinda rings true to me mostly because I know my XAH and he's always been full of hot air. He has all kinds of ideas and then he's onto something else before you can blink.
On the other hand, you just never know when someone is going to snap. Hence my need to protect myself and my son and my friends even at this point in time.