Liz, my STBXAH never laid a hand on me. During that stretch of terrible, horrible months back in 2013, his best drinking buddy (who was at that time trying to stay sober and attend CR) started messaging me that he was concerned AH would try to harm me as he got more and more desperate. It scared the crap out of me, and led me to take some additional actions in terms of emergency planning. Nothing he did or said would have been enough for a protective order in my state, but you should run all of this by your lawyer to find out what remedies are available to you in your state.
Side note about your address--the laws differ from state to state, but in many states, you can't conceal a minor child's address from the other parent without some sort of protective order. That might be something else to run by your lawyer.