I think you've received some great feedback and suggestions. I don't know about your background or his.
It was eye opening for me to read because this exchange you had with him reminds me so much of the communication dynamic I have with two of my siblings. Manipulation, mind reading, control, etc...
We are ACOA, and maybe because these are issues that I'm working on front and center in therapy, I'm feeling like a hammer that only sees nails
However, suppose this style of relating is present in any family that has other forms of dysfunction.