I have not dated much at all in the 5+ years of this endless circus since the start to the end of the divorce... and maybe I am not ready...
I doubt though that I will ever be ready to hear phrases that imo are total invalidations of how I feel...
What's red flag ish for me is that rather than his asking me what I was thinking/feeling, he TOLD me he could "tell" what I was thinking/feeling and was seeking for me to reassure him that I was not upset. And in fact I was upset so...
I got a text this morning from him saying that he doesn't set out to ever hurt someone and that he's sorry for his word selection and how I perceived them...
I guess it's possible that that is a sincere apology... But it sounds so much like xAH's excuses to endlessly justify bad behavior and dismiss my feelings, that Im having a hard time not lumping them together...