But doesn't somebody have to want to be forgiven? And what about the other person letting go of my throat? What if the other person accepts no wrong so says "I don't know why your forgiving me I've done nothing wrong". When you're dealing with somebody mentally ill with a severe personality disorder especially narcissism then all normal solutions dont apply. My idea of letting go of my mother's throat is to never have anything more to do with her. Cut her off completely. I've read countless books of ways to deal with severe narcs and all said to cut them off completely IF you want any chance at peace and harmony in your life. There's usually only one way to truly deal with narcs.....get rid like a limb with gangrene, THEN you can move on because they don't stop.