Originally Posted by
PuzzledHeart 
As somebody who lived in an abusive situation (not my parents, but the woman they hired to take care of us), I thank you. If I were those two kids, I wouldn't give a rats' ass about what your motivation was when you called the dad/CPS. I would be so happy that an adult acknowledged that I was living in a unstable situation and had the strength to do something about it. All the neighbors heard our caretaker scream up and down the block and they did NOTHING. Nobody told my parents, and my caretaker was smart enough not to leave marks. She just used needles instead when emotional abuse wasn't enough for her.
I realize that I'm also projecting because my sister prefers to live/screw her pothead boyfriend and live in fantasy land rather than feed her two children, so my parents, her ex-husband, and my husband and I are left holding the cards. I realize that my sister acts this way because of the abuse she faced as a kid (not just from our caretaker but from others who saw her vulnerability), but I also realize that recognizing her pain doesn't mean that I turn a blind eye when it comes to HER children.
So yes call CPS.
Im so sorry for what you experienced as a kid-- and I am sad for my friend who has been as close to me as a sister... but my concern is for her kids first and foremost and so if I have to choose where my loyalty went today, it was the kids...
She has been endless excuses for the boyfriend for over a year and claims she's SO concerned for her kids... Clearly she is not. Her kids are acting out and upset all the time and she is constantly trying to tell me it's her ex husbands fault and is oblivious to the fact that she is the cause of it bc of the environment she subjects them to.
She's now reached out to my ex husband and is railing about me to him and they're collectively insulting me which is hurtful and awful but I can't do anything about it and am not going to try...
It's very sad for the kids that this is what she's chosen and for all I know her ex husband will turn a blind eye to it too...
Its just sad all around.