Originally Posted by
seek 
Did you do an inventory of your motives? You sound super angry and maybe you were projecting your issues onto her. If he is in rehab and not driving her car, it's really her business who she chooses to live with.
You said he is "violent," but didn't give any details or evidence that the kids are in danger (and of course, if the kids are in danger, CPS should be called, but otherwise, you might not like the situation, but it is her business).
Just my two cents.
If there were not kids involved I would be happy to not pay attention to it. But kids who have to hide in their rooms bc of his rages when drunk and a mom who enables and lies to cover that and hides the truth of it from the kids dad -- no, I won't just turn a blind eye.
Kids deserve protection and if parents can't be sane enough to offer that to those kids, then those close enough to the situation to see how bad it is have a moral obligation to step in.
Just my two cents.