wantobehealthy.....I feel the same frustration every time I see a mother p utting a partner before her kids.....
Since this is a trigger for you...that I why I suggest that you detach from interacting with her about it....pace some boundaries on the relationship.....
The imoortant thing is to protect the children. If they are in harms way....an anonymous call to protective services could shine light on it....you don't have to give your name......
To my way of thinking....the children are more important than your relationship with her.....just like they are more I mportant than her relationship with him......
sometimes, hard decisions have to be made.....
dandylion