Old 02-27-2016, 09:44 AM
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Hiya Sunny. I think it's really important that you not let your DH grind the 4-year-old's self-esteem down. I speak from personal experience. I spent my boyhood trying to please my father, but it seemed that nothing was ever good enough. I think he was trying to instill high standards in me, but they were ridiculously so, I see in hindsight -- and his withheld approval inflicted on me one hell of an inferiority complex that I still struggle with.

Make sure he's doling out at least as much praise as correction, and preferably much more ("one aw s**t wipes out ten atta boys," right?).

Bandi, I'm happy to post lyrics and such when I think they're germane -- but it seems like grandstanding just to do it out of the blue.
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