I didn't mention anything to my husband until I had 2 weeks clean. That is exactly how I started the conversation; have you noticed I haven't been drinking? He has been at a total lose to try and support me. He either minimizes it or says something completely out of line. He doesn't have this problem so he doesn't understand. I don't expect him to. It is one of his least favorite topics so I lean on SR when I want to be understood.