I agree with Lexie. The more you make this "all business," the better. Keep as much emotion out of it as possible. The orders say what they say, and the court wants all parties involved to follow the orders. Period. You don't need to justify, or argue, or defend, or explain yourself to anyone, least of all your AXH. You are so far past the point of giving him one more chance to pay, one more chance to meet your demands and comply with the order. That will only serve to trigger you and ramp up drama.
Imagine yourself in a fancy business suit, with your hair back in a sleek bun, carrying a flawless briefcase and wearing smart glasses. ALL BUSINESS. Feel the desire to text or call or email him? ALL BUSINESS. Imagine saying to his lawyer what you want to say to him. If any of it actually makes sense to say to his lawyer, think about for an hour or two to make sure you're thinking clearly, then send the lawyer an email.
My leadership class included a discussion last week of conscious/unconscious and right/wrong thinking. Most of us are stuck in patterns of unconscious wrong thinking. We grow by turning that into conscious wrong thinking. We become AWARE that our thought processes and reactions are wrong for our serenity, etc. The next step is turning it into conscious right thinking--making concerted efforts to change the way we are thinking about things, and to start approaching them in a healthy manner. Eventually, it becomes unconscious right thinking; totally second nature.
You are clearly moving from "conscious wrong thinking" into "conscious right thinking."
