The child support issue I was fine letting go... I did not want to fight it and would have preferred and still would prefer to survive on my income alone and not have to deal with him in any way or rely on him in any way...
But as Lexie so aptly put it, I am going to be 'cooling my heels' waiting on a contempt hearing (I received the motion but no notice of a hearing date yet) so I will be asking the division of child support services to do what they do best-- go after his sorry arrears self and he can have his wages garnished...
I did not want to give him ammunition to call me greedy or money hungry (which I am not) so somehow I felt I was better off to just provide for the kids myself... But that is not sensible...