The courts will eventually will get tired of this clown's shenanigans. This certainly isn't their first rodeo. Just a hunch, but the scales of justice are about to level out in your situation.
Here is a suggestion, the next time he refuses to meet you at the police station, I would go there anyway, and have them document that you showed up for the visitation exchange, and he didn't. The more documentation you have, the better. The court is interested in FACTS, so give the courts what they want, let them see his inability to follow a court order. Judges do not like when people disregard their orders. He is truly setting himself up for his own demise with his self imposed drama. Squeaky wheel is due to get some grease!