A big part of my turn around was finding a way to empower me. I found the 13 affirmation from Women for Sobriety and Rational Recovery to be instrumental to that. Empowering myself was not instant, though, I had to work to shed a lot of ideas I had acquired over decades. (I am a guy, but WFS also has a men's version.)
Powerlessness is not something unique to the world of recovery. In fact, most of marketing is trying to convince you that what is right for your life is external to you and only available from some business. We are bombarded from an early age that we couldn't possible have the answer on our own. So, it is not surprising that it is an issue so many of us face.