Hi Phoebe, at this point I'm a bit mystified about what happened. As of a week ago, he has become more helpful. I'm wondering if it's because he sees I'm out of the 'danger zone' maybe? And also, we've seen a lot less of Tom, the ex. This I'm sure has a lot to do with it. He was angered by Tom's presence here in the house, not so much at the hospital. Last night, I was yelling in pain (from elastic bands!) and Brian woke up and came into the bedroom to check on me. It's like he finally got it that I actually needed him, a few weeks too late.
He has stepped up and has gotten the food items I've requested the past several days, he is cleaning the kitchen, and he is cooking all his meals, as well as the dogs' meals.
Maybe he was in denial the first two weeks when I was at my worst?