The best thing I ever did was to stop responding to crazy. Keep it up and eventually he will get bored. N's hate to be held accountable, but you have no choice anyway. I fought for supervised visits for 3 years, pm me anytime. Everyone told my ex to take the monitoring device and mine chose to drink and not get caught than to have unsupervised time. It sounds like your ex is on the same path. Someone told me once that asking an alcoholic to stop drinking is to someone asking you to cut off your arm. They believe they are fighting for what is their right. We will never understand and they will never understand unless they stop drinking. Good luck I hope you get some rest.