Teatree-yes, absolutely. My ex would listen and respond at first in our marriage-and then the downhill slide started. At the end, for years, of I said anything about his disgusting treatment I was called a psycho, pu**y and over sensitive-he called others the same things as well. He cornered one of his family members one night-a woman (yes, he was drunk) and she was freaked out-naturally-he came home and got more drunk telling me how she was ridiculous and a pu**y...that seemed to be his go to when he would try and bully someone and they reacted. He's also cursed at his own daughter when she stood up for herself. I would scream "no jackass, your four year old isn't being a bitch-she's scared of YOU-don't make her feel bad for being scared!!!". And he still treats her that way. Bully mentality. Disgusting on all levels.