Hmmmm
I "caught" my husband once. Not with alcohol, but with cigarettes, after he had quit for 2 years. This was after telling me for a year everytime I asked him that he was not smoking again and I would be the first person to know if he was. He only smelled like he was smoking because his friend was riding in his truck smoking?!? Then I went to the office late one night and he was there "working". He was smoking!
After years of him telling me I'm fat, lazy, poor mom, poor everything, I suddenly had an aha moment. I'm not so bad after all! I don't out and out lie to him (except maybe to hide what I got him for Christmas). I have never been deceitful. It was a real boost to my ego!
Perhaps, JT, what you "accomplished" by catching him, is a better feeling about yourself. We all could use that.
Hugs, Lyn