Glee, good progress! I like the way you are thinking your way through the challenges.
I don't think the environment was designed this way - I credit some really awesome first residents, some of whom are still with us. I feel I'm learning so much about how to comfortably get along in a group. There is plenty of drinking before and during dinner but no one pushes it. I've been very calm and clear about my not drinking and am rarely asked anymore. When someone does ask now, it's usually on the order of "you don't drink, right?".