Please please go buy the following book-"splitting-protecting yourself while divorcing somebody with BPD or NPD".....it will explain in exact detail what's going on and why he's doing it. Don't give up!!! Friend, that's what he wants-this is just a game to him and the kids are pawns-things to use. So sorry.....please don't give up. You may want to find some support (narcissistic support group) for specific stuff like this....Tina swithin has a great community (private forum you join) and her Facebook page (one moms battle) is a fabulous resource and place to get feedback. Hugs and peace to you-you are brave and strong and courageous!!