If I may toss in my .02
Having once been in my mid-40's ( not _that_ long ago
) and looking at your description of your b/f what I see is a nasty mid-life crisis.
What stands out the most is keeping his 2 ex's as friends on FB. As a guy, that is completly the most stupid thing you could ever do. You _never_ do _anything_ to threaten your current relationship by holding on to some older ones. That is practically the first lesson in dating you learn in High School.
Building a "harem" of ex-g/f's is a classic symptom of mid-life crisis.
The next issue I have is his _not_ saying "I love you". Come on! Another lesson us guys learn from the very start is that if you are not willing to say those words you've got no business getting into a relationship. 9 months is plenty of time for him to get it thru his thick skull that you are serious about the relationship.
My perspective, based only on what you have written about him, is that he's nowhere near as invested in the relationship as you are.
Mike
