Kiki and Patricia-
I think it takes time to adjust to not drinking and not just by us. The family dynamic completely changes and it's hard on everybody. Do you think that by Spring you could deal with your husband if he just drank one or two nights while on vacation? Maybe compromise and then try to find fun things to do that don't include alcohol? Perhaps alone time away from home and all the stress would help all of you out and give you a chance to remember what you originally fell in love with and discover if those people still exist.
I'm lucky that when my hubby drinks it's only one drink (although it's a double)and he never shows the effect of the alcohol because he's a very tall/large man.
It doesn't bother me at all when he drinks, but I have noticed he tries not to do it in front of me. My sobriety is pretty important to him so I'm very fortunate. He's still a butt head though! Lol