Congratulations Metadude, I am glad you found support here. Now you have qualified for the One Year and Over, come see some familiar faces there!!
BF, my heart goes out to you, it is awful watching your children making mistakes and not being able to help. Al-anon might be a really good idea for support.
When I first found SR I had come online looking for ways to drink in moderation, if I had known then that there was a pill that would help, I would have taken it and my pain would have continued because moderation would never have been enough. Only removing alcohol from my future has worked. I thought it would be a negative (giving up, quitting, unable to etc. ) But actually it is a positive it is a release, a freedom, a gain.
Most of my friends, be they drinkers or Normies, struggle with understanding why I
chose never to drink again. Fact is, it doesn't matter if they ever understand why. It only matters that
I do.