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Old 12-31-2015, 08:21 PM
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Originally Posted by ScrewdUpInDe View Post
The negative self talk is so deeply ingrained, since childhood. Thanks dad for starting that when I was a kid plus others in my life.

Unfortunately the life I want to lead is not reliant just on me. Maybe that is the problem. I just need to accept that I may never have that life.
I think we can reject the negative self talk ingrained or imposed us by others...it's not easy but it can be done UP.

The other part is a little harder than that again.

I had to accept some relationships were not healed and would not likely be any time soon.

If I put my life on hold waiting for them to heal I'd be basically in the same position I was when I was drinking, just sober, with all that sadness.

It's ok to regret that, or even take the blame for it, but not if all your energy is invested in beating yourself up over and over again.

I hope 2016 will be the year you decide to do what's best for you and move on Up. Moving on isn't about giving up hope, its about accepting that waiting, treading water, is doing you no good at all.

You need a new life, new dreams,. new mountains and climb and new beginnings.

You need to work out who sober you is - he's not the guy that you used to be.

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