Holy crap when I first read the title of this thread I thought I read I'm engaged with XAH. (I am going to get new glasses this week.)
As far as engaging with the XAH, these things can happen. It's water under the bridge.
A good friend of mine shared this with me the other day, all I could do is chuckle and nod my head in agreement.
Sometimes the first step to forgiveness, is understanding the other person is a complete idiot.
Happy New Year Liz!