Hi, Lockyboy.
I agree with JD - sounds like recovery is a must for your relationships to get another chance.
The first week is tough, focus on surviving. Stay away from WhatsApp, Facebook, etc. You can't change the situation by guessing why she is online. But any emotional challenge can shift this fragile sobriety balance into the negative side.
But on blinds on distractions. You can't save your relationships without saving yourself first.
Keep posting.