I didn't go to my AH family Xmas eve for the same reason. I wanted me time. Well he got mad and he stayed home too.... So much for me time...
And of course it was my fault that "he missed Xmas eve for the first time ever" So it spilled over to Xmas day which I had already canceled my family get together for this year. I'm the only one that works, I cook,I clean before and after... Not one person offered to do it instead.
I'm ok with it. Next year I will do exactly what I want. 2016, I will work on me!