Am I the only one who is uncomfortable hearing the guy telling her how to act? I mean I am where I am. I don't want psychotherapy from a boyfriend and if I start to get it I get red flags all over the place.
I am certainly not putting myself in a position to ask for his "patience" with me. That smacks of him being in control of my very being.
Now, if I am becoming too people pleasing for him - well, that's his issue. I think it's pretty unhealthy to be in a romantic relationship where one person tells the other how to act or who talks down to them because of some character trait that is not theirs to fix.