I swear I work my program harder now than I did when I was married to the alcoholic and a lot of that was because HE was the problem, in my eyes. Once I moved out and moved on, I had to address those things that were in ME and see where my own skewed thinking was creating problems for me. My new boyfriend has no idea how crazy in the head I can be because I share all of that stuff with my sponsor and program friends. Life is good today and my new man is devoted and caring and I am glad I stayed the course with him and patiently waited for our relationship to unfold as it has. Taking it slow has been key and I'm really happy today.