Yes, Snoozy, I enjoyed having kids too. I didnt drink until I was 30.....Drinking then made me not enjoy my kids fully and like it was a burden at times in some way. It changed my perspective.
Maybe my story is different in there was a pivotal event where I started drinking specifically. I can identify it. Maybe it's harder for others to see....or it's different. Some feel they were born with it. Either way, I'm saying that being told, or knowing I had to stop, made me feel suffocated, like I was missing out.