Liz, I completely agree with Lexie...the big take-away here is how self-aware you are about the whole thing.
You know what I'm going to say to you, because it's what I always say to you. Be gentle with yourself! Remember...you have come so, so far. You are so much healthier than you were even a year ago. You will always have your emotional quirks and your imperfections. The man in your life sounds lovely, and you sound happy. Which makes ME happy for you.
I would imagine that the words will come in good time. But we all know that the words don't mean much without the actions to back them up, and the actions are OBVIOUSLY there for both of you. So try not to let the words trip you up too much.