You're absolutely right kzaug, I don't love myself enough. I am terrified. And when my husband belittles me, I end up believing every word he says. When he's in a bad mood, I think I'm not good enough to make him happy. And the odd times he compliments me I have a hard time believing it. My parents were overly critical, all my love relationships were/are overly critical too...why do I attract this, I don't know?
I think you're right...if we don't love ourselves first we can't receive love and respect from others...