Some of the things noted that stand out is there a difference between opinion and a judgement and recognizing red flag behavior/laying down boundaries. Some people and alkies/addicts consider non opinions or lack of encouragement "judgemental". But their behavior and consequences are theirs to deal with.
I get "you're so judgemental" simply for not agreeing with the alkie/addict. Or "supporting" them(with money for their criminal proceedings/dui) They got mad at me because I wouldn't pay for their lawyer or help with their payment of fines and fees after they complained. Wasn't even a discussion really but if you don't get behind them 100% rah rah you are against them. I've also been berated for showing disgust at a local personality who made the news with a dui hit & run and giving the police a hard time.
Just because one does not advocate or excuse bad behavior should they be considered "judgemental". If you berate or lecture a person that's another story.