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Old 11-21-2015, 08:54 PM
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minime13
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Rehabs are run differently and have different programs and adherences. I can't tell you how his runs, but I can give you some insight based on a family member recently being in rehab. Their days are packed full, and it's physically and emotionally exhausting. She described it as going through the motions until something broke through and clicked (lots of repetition with meetings, "homework," etc., basically to get them back on a normal schedule with rules and boundaries since this didn't really exist while allowing addiction to lead the way). She was stripping some pretty deep layers of herself down and it was still pretty difficult for her to communicate it, so she simply didn't communicate with people outside of rehab for a bit.

There could be many reasons why, but he's in rehab working on his recovery. This is great news for you because now you can devote your time, energy and attention where it needs to be - yourself. Getting back to taking care of you, first and foremost, before lending help to others. That's a hard habit to get back into, after being the partner of an alcoholic. No matter what, being in a relationship affects you as the partner, and you have some recovery to go through yourself.

Even when out of rehab he's going to need a lot of time for himself, and will need to devote his time and energy to him. This is what you need to. It's time to start paying attention to your needs, your health, your wellness - by whatever means are best for you. There's a lot of info on this board at the top part to help get to that point, and a lot of good advice and threads by others that can be of great help as well.
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