Great article on setting boundaries with a narcissist-alcoholics follow same pattern so figured this would be helpful. It's hard to stand up for yourself when you've been shut down for so long, but you can do it.
How To Set Boundaries With A Narcissist: Is There A Way To Do That? | Karyl McBride, Ph.D., LMFT
Hope this helps those fighting with how to set appropriate boundaries.
Peace to y'all!