Originally Posted by
Dimndaruf 
Sometimes I think he's just tired and/or hurt of seeing his mom cry and hearing his mom vent and complain to or about his AF.
That's what I'm talking about. In spite of "fun times," isn't it true that the alcoholic's actions and behavior are your number one focus? Is he getting better or isn't he? Should I stay or should I go? Why is he acting this way? How can I get him to change without making him mad? Why can't he understand how I feel?
As long as you continue this dance, he is going to be affected by it--directly or indirectly. Kids pick up on our moods, how we feel about ourselves, our entire outlook on life.
You may not be able to make sure he has a healthy father--that isn't in your power to do. But you CAN make sure he has a healthy mother, and people here who grew up in families with an alcoholic parent can tell you that that can make a huge difference in the quality of life for a child.