What lady and anvil said-again. I have had many of the same discussions with my 6 year old and it's tough-but it is reality and that is what she needs-honesty, truth and validation. I'm just going to say it-your husband is a selfish a$$. I ms allowed to say this bc mine was too-which is why he's the XAH. And mine continues to treat his daughter in horrible abusjve bullying ways-and doesn't care-there's always a justification just like in our marriage (guess where he learned to lie and manipulate? Think..."family tree"). My ex had some sick twisted thinking and actions as well (many secrets I'm sure of/but that's on him too) and has no idea how to be a good role model. My dude had some pretty insanely gross demons as well. YOU need to worry about your child...not what your hubby is doing (which is despicable behavior toward your marriage and as a parent)....get him some help bc it sure sounds like he's screaming out for someone to hear him.