Thanks for the wisdom folks.
I guess I have made some progress, because we were invited to go see a band next Monday night, at House of Blues. Husband asked me, our friends(his best buddy) have 2 extra tickets. I said it was the last thing I want to do on a Monday night. Really, it holds no appeal to me to go do that. It might on a weekend, but even ignoring the drinking temptation, it's not what I want to do when I have to get up at 6 the next morning! The other couple only have a 17 yo at home now. They are always going out these days. A new freedom for them.