Our adult children are suffering. My husband is suffering.
I've also been at fault and lost in my non-drinking disease of denial and looking everywhere else instead of my own actions.
Thankfully, I'm finding recovery for myself, and DS8 is attending Alakid/Alateen.
God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference.
Let it begin with me. I can't control or change my husband or our children. What I do is work on myself, and learn ways to connect and have relationships with my family, as they are. When I've stopped trying to force changes, everything has changed. Baby steps. One day at a time.
For so very long, I also ranted and raged and wanted something other than what I have. I was miserable. Nothing has changed except myself, and life is becoming an amazing, beautiful adventure full of feelings that no longer shame or isolate me.
Stung, your daughters have a mother who is exactly, impectly, wonderfully who they need.