Congrats on the 86 plus days sober gonzo. I recently had my partner say quit drinking or I'll leave you. Well.. over a month or so ago now. Crazy it's been that long tbh it feels like yesterday. I quit. It was hard. But its been the best thing ive done. I was a long way down the path of losing myself completely. It was a reminder to walk in the other direction. Back through recovery and into discovery if I'm lucky. It's scary but its not a sped up death sentence which is the certainty of the other way. Our relationship now is fantastic. Will it last? I hope so but if it doesnt at least ill get to have good memories now and also myself to go on with no matter what.
Time is your friend and sobriety is the only way forward. /hugs