It is so hard to come to terms that the real love in their lives is alcohol. My alcoholic mother has now decided to give up family Christmases all because of her focus on drinking. A woman who always professed that family was everything to her, has now put all of that focus into the bottle.
Recently I found myself in a fit of jealousy over my (not an alcoholic) husband's "addiction" to his phone and technology. I felt like a third wheel and I start having feelings as if his D*MN phone was another woman. We worked it all out and set technology boundaries for both of us which has made things much better, but I started to better understand, through this situation, how we feel like a second class citizen to our alcoholic's first love, their drink of choice.