Originally Posted by
FeelingGreat 
She wants to come home (who want's to live with their parents?) but needs to make sure it's completely on her own terms. And she's clearing the decks to drink as much as she wants, when she wants.
Absolutely agree. This isn't a cryptic message in ANY way - she's telling you to accept her fully raging, growing addiction & everything that goes with it & never speak a word of it to a single other soul. It's VERY clear.
Denial, isolation, blameshifting, minimizing, progression, lack of accountability, zero desire to quit - it's all right there in black & white.
I'm so sorry. I know it hurts to realize exactly how much we can't control & how hard it is to watch someone make choices to stay unhealthy.
What are you doing to make changes for you? The changes you CAN control?
The only way to get out of this cycle is to take a step in a different direction - you can continue to stay victimized by her choices or you can define better choices for yourself & work toward getting healthier, independent of her. It seems that you are & have been at a fork in the road but eventually you'll have to decide which path you want to take.